Respect Yourself; Be Smart

Bottom line–if a man sleep with a woman he don’t know or care about, SEX is NOT going to make him care. That kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he’s through. He ain’t sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how good it felt scratching it. He’s moving on with his life until that spot itches again and it don’t matter which hand he scratches it.
Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up getting caught up and wanting the man to romance, wine and dine them and pretend we’re in a “relationship� when it’s NOTHING but a booty call.
Come on, ladies, y’all know I’m telling the truth.
Unfortunately, ladies, we are part of the problem. You sleep with a man BEFORE you know them or what they're about. Having sex with a man does not automatically make that a “relationship�. Many women will deny they think like this but I’m speaking from personal experience. Also, ladies we know when our man is fooling around and still we turn a blind eye by getting mad at the other woman.
Now, what kind of sense does that make? Why should that woman make YOU (a total stranger) a priority in her life? IF HE DID NOT MARRY YOU HE IS STILL SINGLE. The “other woman� is not breaking up a “happy home�.
Many women marry men who were cheating BEFORE they walked down the aisle and then are SHOCKED that a fancy wedding dress or an expensive walk down the aisle didn’t change who he was. Why should he change? YOU let him know it was acceptable by sticking around that long.
Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN. Most shady men give themselves away one way or another, usually before the first 30 days. Women have to stop “rewarding� unfaithful men by pretending it ain’t happening. All Black Men (BM) do not cheat. But many men WILL cheat if there are NO real penalties for it.
Stop jumping into bed with brothers YOU DON’T KNOW. That means fewer opportunities for men to cheat. Women have to STOP being so afraid to ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE lifestyle. Worry LESS about what kind of job he has and what kind of car he drives and encourage him to talk about his past, particularly his past with women. OPEN those ears and listen. Does he put down his ex-women and blame them for everything? And don’t be so vain. You are NOT a better woman than his last. If he dogged her out, you will probably be NEXT.
Observe him when you are with him. Do you have his home number? Work number? Have you seen where he lives? Where he works? Is he secretive? Did you ask if he’s married or engaged? How does he treat other people? Listen to what he says, NOT what you want to hear. Stop INTERPRETING the meaning of what he says to fit your purposes. If he says, “I’m not looking’ for nothing right now� — DON�