Dating is fun and really should be called the Ultimate Sorting Process, and NOT stressful!
Dating invloves meeting and greeting and trying to figure out if somebody is a good fit for more than friendship.
For many a church folk that is always going to come down to the basic question, "Are you church-going?"
I personally do not date men that are not saved. That's a fact like saying that I don't date women, sorry ladies-I just don't...for a saved woman, an unsaved man is not worth the trouble.
However, what happens when you see somebody new across the peus? Even if you sit in the front and pay really close attention to the Word, you can sometimes just catch the essence of a confident and Christian brother. And isn't that nice?
Well do you date him or don't you?
Me, I am a "No Go" on the Church Bro. Here is why:
1. First of all I hate to say this, but there is a very high chance that the brother is gay and on the Downlow. I know that I am going to get smashed for that, but hey, most Brothers don't come running to the Lord until they are married, old or sick. Neither of which would be appealing to me. I am not looking to be anybody's beard.
2. If they are straight they are getting ready to run circles around the deperate women in the church. And you are not going to catch me with my panties in a bunch when I need to have my mind on Jesus.
3. I dont like to eat and sh*t in the same place. I get fed the Word in church, I dont want to enter into a relationship that could turn explosive for him or me. Then one of us has to find a new church.
4. I dont want to be involved in church gossip. And dating, especially in the early stages causes Chickens to Cluck! Miss me with that.
5. I dont want my worship to be interefered with. I dont want to be districted when I am Praisng the Lord. By the time I bring a Brother to church, I want all of that puppy love to have died down to authentic and true friendship.
However if you do decide to go Church House Trolloping here are some Tips to Keep it Clean and Classy:
* Display Discretion in the quantity of men that you decide to date.
* Move Slowly, have coffee, tea and lunch for the first few dates and don't get too serious.
* Dont Share the Sugar, Until you are a committed exclusive couple, don't even think about sharing your relationship.
* Dont change how you worship or sit. You don't want people asking you what happened if it doesn't work out and you don't want people in your business in the infancy stages of a good relationship.
* Dont get physical, Having sex before its appropriate is usually when somebody gets hurt if feelings are not as mutual as the physical!
* If it does not work out maintain a friendship, you will still have to serve with this gentleman.
Enjoy Your Dating Experience, and be selective when you do choose to settle down, because when you are married, that is supposed to be it!
Classily Yours,
Sharelle D. Lowery
www.ClassyBlackGirl.com | Blogger.Author.Speaker
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Do you remember Chyna Whyte? The sexy, redbone with the Southern drawl rapping at the end of Lil Jon's "Bia Bia"? Here's a refresher for you:
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Essence.com sat down with Grammy-winning gospel great Donnie McClurkin, who also serves as pastor of the Perfecting Faith Church in Long Island, New York and has a bone to pick with preachers who put money above the Lord.
Below are his thoughts on the role of today's black churches and its pastors in this dwindling economy, as told to Essence.com:
As pastors, we have to link arms and have bipartisanships. The [black] church has always been the face of the community. Now we have to take on the responsibility of becoming true servants to the people from all walks of life. I get so mad when I see these pimpin' preachers driving Rolls-Royces, Bentleys, flying around in their private jets, and making it seem like prosperity and money is the way of God when 90 percent of your congregation is on Section 8 or can't figure out how they are going to keep their lights on or feed their kids. I'm big on perception, and what would it look like for me to live so lavishly if the people in my church are struggling?
I've done great in gospel music, and only a few of us have accomplished what I have, and guess what? I live in the ...hood, not some...click to continue reading
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