Quit Going Back to the Person That Consistently Hurt You
You can't tell people who to love but how much more "hurt", love, can you take? When a person consistently doesn't treat you with respect, when a person consistently hurts you in the same way, why continuously_ go back? I know why, because you are comfortable, you like how they treat you, no one else better will come along. Those are the consistent excuses I hear from people who deal with people who constantly hurt them.
My friends always admire how I can cut people off so quickly, especially men. I do have a loyalty problem, however, I will not stay with a person who treats me like shit or makes me feel less than a woman no matter how much I like them. I know when to get the fuck out! I know my worth and I know that being unhappy is worthless for me.
So quit going back to people who hurt you. It doesn't even have to bee with a spouse, it can bee with a job, a friendship, a family member. Reevaluate these situations and_ how they make you feel. You deserve way more than what these things are offering you and your happiness. If God let you leave the first time, stop going back.