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|Tue, November 19, 2013 at 10:00 PM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
I want to thank EVERYONE who called in and listen to the show. It truly means a lot to me that you all support me the way you do. Here's a quick recap of tonight's show!!
1. Treat others with love and respect. Bringing joy to other people's lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually, you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude. However, don't just be very kind to people so you can receive royal treatment.
2. Create goodwill and thankfulness by practicing random deeds of kindness. Share your being with others in many ways. Share your knowledge in nice ways, or make a small donation to a needy person or an unfortunate child. Share opportunities for your potential happiness by sharing goals and accomplishments with a special person or a group. Help a candidate or a political cause, or a community project. Help at a school or church.
3. Express yourself, perhaps in a diary, or through short stories. You may need to get feelings out, but not on your friends!
4. Learn to let go of past events. You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives, bad beginnings/moments. Don't close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.
5. Forgive yourself. Don't punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: "I forgive myself for _______." Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself. Look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don't ever demean or ridicule yourself. If you do, laugh out loud, realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning. If you did something you are not proud of, resolve to never do it again, and take steps to keep it out of your mind.
6. Put positive statements up some places where you will see them each and every day. "I am beautiful." or "I have the courage to love." Write notes that remind you of what you love most about yourself. Read them out loud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice one of them. Sticky notes are fabulous for such affirmations and goals.
7. Sit in front of the mirror. Imagine in the mirror is someone putting you down. Then, practice calmly saying to her, "I do not care," with a smile. Practice it until you truly believe it. Do not allow some other person's image of perfect to manifest you. If you believe you are pretty, the person in the mirror will look pretty. If you focus on what others hate about you, that is all you will see.
8. Try to look past "material" objects and feelings: We all want a nice house, nice things, someone to share our life with, etc. Find your true wants objectively. Do you crave power, a religion, or simply a motive? Sometimes it's easier to hide the truth from yourself, but figuring out what you really want will help you know yourself better and hopefully aid in answering important questions you often ask yourself.
9. Keep a journal. Write about your experiences, good and bad. When you write down good experiences, allow yourself to feel those feelings. When you remember bad experiences, allow yourself to feel self-compassion. Compassion is not self-pity, but rather willingness to be present/accept with one's own pain and regret. Most people experienced chronic emotional invalidation growing up; adults shouldn't expect others to be validating, and need to learn how to validate themselves. Compassion allows us to be present with our pain so it can be acknowledged and let go.
10. Be persistent. Work as steadily as you can at loving and accepting yourself just as you are right now. A large part of love is accepting another "as is". This is no different for yourself- learn to love yourself "as is". Only after we've accepted ourselves, we might think about changing some less than desirable characteristics.
Listen to my new episode The Love Below with Shaun Babineaux :-) at http://tobtr.com/s/5668689. #BlogTalkRadio