What are your triggers? We are often triggered when someone does or says something that activates the feelings of painful experiences from our past.
"Triggers are on weapons, we use weapons when we feel threatened or hurt." - Ray John??
When someone activates our triggers, often times our first reaction is to pull and shoot. Now we have harmed someone in our present and future because we haven't healed from that past wound.
Our perception is our reality. Whatever story you tell yourself, your subconscious can't help but to believe it. Even if it is fiction...in your mind...it becomes fact.