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|Thurs, January 18, 2018 at 5:11 PM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
New Year. New Me. Choosing My Energy.Not involving myself in other peoples affairs.
Just like you, I am a woman who wears many hats. I am a wife, mother of Five children ages 5-16, an entrepreneur, blogger and an author. In order to experience some level of order in my life, I had to create a plan to keep my life centered. Having a Sanity Plan is essential for me to keep my head above water to ensure I am the best person I can be.
The central theme of my Sanity Plan is: Choose Your Energy. Choosing my enthusiasm reminds me that I am 100% in control of my life. I do not want to associate with anything that doesn't allow me to be my best self. My Sanity Plan consists of three major components:
Be mindful of my associations with people and events.
Television programs, Social interactions must reflect my inner peace.
The reason why choosing my energy is crucial to me is because there was a time in my life I unknowingly surrounded myself with drama. Being the oldest child, I was always in the middle of adverse family affairs between my siblings and my cousins. If there was a problem in the family, I was the one listening to the family gossip over the phone and giving advice based on what I heard which caused more problems. Because I had a bad habit of picking sides, I found myself being isolated from people I care about which made the environment all the more toxic. I later realized that all of this unnecessary wasted energy was not worth it. I needed to mind my own business.
Choosing my energy is a daily process for me. I have since pulled myself away from being the point of contact when the family drama unfolds. I remind myself to be very careful of who I am chatting with on the phone. What has helped me with my sanity is that I send almost every phone call to voicemail. That way I can pick and choose which phone call is worth my time. I also pick and choose which text messages I respond to. My sanity level has become better because I am no longer in the loop of the drama.
What I've learned from creating a Sanity Plan was that 80% of the drama I had in the center of my life was built outside of my home. It wasn't my husband, children or business causing chaos in my life. It was everyone living outside of the four walls of my house. Coming to terms with my reality let me know that I was 100% at fault for the position I put myself in. No one else was to be blamed but me.
When I began to focus on my own affairs, I learned there was more time to balance my home/business life. On days I would work late styling hair, I would utilize my crock pot to create yummy meals for my family. At the end of my business day, dinner was already made. My husband is off work every single Monday. I too decided to take off work on Mondays to spend quality time with him alone. Sundays are fun days with my children. They love the trampoline park. Oh, I can't forget my self-care days. I recently took a trip to New York with friends. I didn't have to worry about anyone but myself. It was the best time ever.
Staying focused on my Sanity Plan is teaching me how to balance my life. Minding my own business has been great for my quality of life as well as for my husband and children. I can now show up to the family functions happy. I do not know everybody's secrets, and my lips are sealed.
Do you have an action plan set in place to keep you focus on your lifestyle goals? Feel free to share your thoughts.
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|Thurs, January 4, 2018 at 12:00 AM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
Year One Of Liberation!
1.) (of a person) showing freedom from social conventions or traditional ideas, especially with regard to sexual roles.
2.) (of a place or people) freed from imprisonment, slavery, or enemy occupation.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Today January 4th is our birthday! KeiannaJohnson.com created out of liberation. I was tired of being held, hostage by everything that didn't derive from me or my thoughts. I merely wanted the freedom to do what I wanted to do without apologizing for exercising my right as an adult to live the way I have chosen to live. I am happy to say in the year 2017 I did just that and was able to share my life experiences here with you.
I enjoyed interacting with those of you who left comments on my blog post this past year. In those moments I have learned I wasn't alone in my quest to live in freedom. I believe everyone at some point or another is searching for the opportunity to break free from the judgmental mentality of others, stereotypes, slander and the side-eyes of stupidity. It is tiring trying to fight up against the madness. It should be easy to be yourself, right? Primarily speaking of the fact we are all adults. But you and I know that it isn't as easy as it should be. One reason being everyone wants to be right.
I know for me, I hate when a person wants me to see the good in them automatically, yet they are always unwilling to see the goodness in other people. When they speak, they still highlight the faults of the other person. I often wonder to myself, "DAMN! Is it that hard to keep your mind from festering in negativity?"
Anyway, living out my truth also showed me who I can honestly open myself up too. My sister Trina (who often get a bad rep, yet is the very person who will give you her last dime) has been one of my number one supporters. Yes, we fall short and have fights like any other sister relationship, but when talking to Trina, there is never any hidden motives which are refreshing. While wanting other to accept me as I am, I too had to learn to extend the same courtesy in return.
Trina and I over the years have had moments of explosive disagreements due to life circumstances. If I can be honest for a moment, I used to impose my views about life onto her and try to force her to live the life I live. As time turned into days, months and years, I eventually understood that life is a journey. We all have a purpose in life which will lead us down our own individual paths. And because we are both believers in God, anything meant to destroy our lives will be turned around for good. That is a promise from God himself. Once I realized my judgemental mentality against my sister, I had to teach myself to stop that behavior because I detest everyone who has tried to impose their views about life on me. I eventually learned I couldn't have it both ways. I must treat my sister the way I would like someone to treat me. Once I began to walk out my motto of unapologetic living, my sister and I relationship has grown into something beautiful. Although we both have flaws, I know for a fact she is genuine. There is nothing no one can say or do that will make me believe anything different about her. She has my back, and I have her back! Period.
I end this post by encouraging you to examine yourself. We reap what we sow. If we want to have the liberty to live in harmony with ourselves, we have to also extend the same level of respect to those around us. It feels so good to live apologetically right? We must also allow people to live, make mistakes, learn from their mistakes and live again. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KEIANNAJOHNSON.COM FAMILY! Until next time. Live in peace.
New Years Resolution: What are you liberating yourself from in 2018? What character flaw can you change that will allow those around you to live in freedom?
Filed under: Living Unapologetic, Self-Discovery, Uncategorized Tagged: Growth, Happy Birthday, happy new year, Lifestyle, Living Life, Self Examination, Transition, true story
|Thurs, November 30, 2017 at 12:01 AM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
Book Club Series IntroductionNever underestimate your own need and ability to affect change.
Unapologetic living for me is all about taking back my power to be myself without shame. Without caring about the boxes, people try to put me in. Without being upset about the lies, people have created with the hope of destroying my character. Without hiding or trying to convince people, I am kind, worthy or desperately screaming, "PICK ME! PICK ME! I promise I am loyal. I promise am good." I do not need validation to live. I have to own that fact by walking it out, doing what is right for me.
My soul is entirely open after shattering the glass wall with a steel baseball bat. The wall, built up by others (with my assistance) was designed from the very beginning to paralyze me. It was designed to keep me down and always second guessing myself. For many years I did not love myself. My confidence was so low that I believed every negative word someone said about me even if it wasn't accurate information. I am no longer the number one fan of the #BreakKeiannaDown campaign. I am however the leader of the #TakingBackMyPower club.
Even though boundaries have become the number one staple of my life, I am still managing to be comfortable with the choices I make for myself. I've realized having barriers in life are designed to keep me safe and growing in the right direction. Creating this blog is a symbol of me being ready to live free, honest and sincere in every way. I've finally evolved to the point of being cool with people not liking me, especially those who have never meant me any good.
I have had some mind-blowing discoveries about myself. I learned the reason why there was so much craziness happening around me was that I never wanted to eliminate anyone from my life. I have always fought for the underdog. I had a fascination with seeing the underdog overcome adversity. I knew what it felt like to be rejected and I didn't want to be a person who dismissed other people, so I kept everyone around not understanding that people are in my life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. I was holding on to relationships that were never in my best interest. A tragic discovery was realizing 50% of the people in my life was using me for their personal gain. They got away with it because I allowed it to happen. Not letting go permitted situations to last for far too long. Creating havoc in my life. If I can travel deeper into my truth, I knew I was being used but didn't have the guts to shut the factory down unless I was angry. I never had the willpower to shut a situation down outside of angry. Which is one reason why I kept my anger in my back pocket because I knew if I couldn't save myself, my violence can do anything to protect me? I never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings. Me not speaking up or creating boundaries created more harm than good. Since making the necessary changes, life is not perfect but has been going in a positive direction. Taking things one day at a time.
What did Iyanla say?
Iyanla Vanzant, Tapping the Power Within. A Path to Self-Empowerment for Women.
Tapping the Power Within, I found Iyanla Vanzant book in my local thrift store. I paid $1.99 for a book initially costing $24.95. The book is in perfect condition, with the bounce CD located in the back of the book unopened. I listened to the CD to jump start my excitement to read the book. The central theme of the CD that spoke to my spirit as I have a right to be bodacious! I have a right to follow my own inner authority. I have a right to do what is best for me. Iyanla spoke about "Taking my rightful place" letting the old things GO! She provided Seven tools to help her readers live their best life. The Seven tools are:
Mind your own business first
Replace external referencing with inner authority
Stop being bad and wrong
Take your rightful place
Go for the JOY
I am committed to my healing. I can't live FREE if I am broken. Every door that was designed to keep me living beneath my potential has been exposed. I see things so much clearer, but I do understand taking my rightful place will require me to be sharp, open, and honest with myself. I will not continue to allow people to dump their madness in my life like I am their personal trash dumpster. I am not a dumpster.
I am Keianna Johnson. I am funny. I am creative. I am loyal. I can sing. I am a hard worker. I am honest. I am a good person at my core. I am bold. I have a calling on my life as an intercessor and missionary. I have the heart for people. I am a writer. I am friendly. I have discernment. I am a professional hairstylist. I am a submissive wife. I am a momma bear. I am appreciative. I indeed have the heart for God. I am good. Whether anyone notices or not.....I AM GOOD!
My intentions for this series is to learn new tools that will allow me to tap into my power within. I will be reading a chapter a week also writing a blog post on my discovery. Look for the hashtag #TappingThePowerWithin on the blog subheader. Feel free to share your thoughts.
Self-empowerment: What are you working on that will make your life better?
Filed under: Living Unapologetic, Self Empowerment, Self Improvement, Uncategorized Tagged: Lifestyle, Self Empowerment, Self Examination, Transformation
|Thurs, November 23, 2017 at 12:35 PM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
Thanksgiving. A day highlighted in celebration of gratitude. It is a day set aside for us to plan a meeting place, cook our favorite dishes, share a large meal and laughter with those who genuinely love us. Our families. Our Friends.
What am I thankful for?
My heart is continually in a state of gratitude. God has been good to my family and me. Everyone connected to me is blessed including my friends, acquaintances, business partners, and my clients. I am surrounded by an enormous amount of support. I am surrounded by pure love. I can honestly say everyone in my inner circle LOVES me for me. I do not take for granted the security that has been established in my relationships. I in return love them too.
The year 2017 isn't over yet, but all the things God has given me the strength to accomplish from my vision board has come to pass except for one major project I've been patiently waiting for since June. I am not going to lie, it has been stressful waiting without answers. However, God put it on my heart to find a plan B a couple months ago. Plan B is already mapped out and in motion if the original plan does not work out. I am so thankful to God because he has ensured me that no matter what happens, I WILL BE AN AUTHOR IN JANUARY 2018! I am grateful that my hero gives me peace of mind. I know God loves me. I love him too.
A moment of silence
I am thankful for my loved ones who have passed away. I reflect on the value they left behind that has made my life better. I miss my grandmother and Aunt Bo terribly. I miss my grandmother smile and our casual conversations. I also miss my beloved Aunt Bo. I miss seeing her at family functions. I miss how she would give me the side-eye every time I said something crazy or provocative. It is interesting how annoying my Aunt side-eye used to be to me, and now that she is gone, I miss it.....a whole lot. Anyway. I salute them both. I am thankful to have had a personal relationship with women who were of substance. My grandma and aunt were godly women who lived a good life. I miss their warm embrace. I miss their love. Even though they are no longer here physically, I love them with all my heart.
I am thankful for you
When I created KeiannaJohnson.com eleven months ago, my goal was to become a freedom builder. I planned to give people hope and the tools they need to find themselves. I wanted everything I wrote to come from my personal experiences either good or bad, I wanted to share it on this platform to show those who are going through life transitions that they are not alone. Life is a process. Life change. People change, and we reverse. I wanted my readers to see when a person refuses to give up, they will be successful. Thank you for reading my blog post, commenting and sharing my content with your audience. I appreciate you. I love you.
I close this post with one of my favorite songs by Hezekiah Walker; Grateful. Happy Thanksgiving. Have a great day.
What are you thankful for?
Filed under: Living Unapologetic, Uncategorized Tagged: Family Time, gratitude, Living Life, Thanksgiving
|Thurs, November 9, 2017 at 12:46 PM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
#SelfCare: Mind, Body, & Spirit.Green Juices & Smoothies Book cost $5
No matter who you are, there are levels of responsibility in life that can not be ignored. Being a caregiver is one of them. It doesn't matter if you are a man, woman, young or old there are people in our lives who depend on us to assist them to thrive and grow.
Taking care of our responsibilities aren't always easy especially during those times we lack sleep, proper nutrition, or are fatigued. When we are feeling this way, we are not useful to anyone not even ourselves.
Personally speaking, when I am not well-rested, depression kicks in. It is hard for me to see sometimes past how I feel to be proactive enough to get things done. When I am not feeling my best, I often retreat inside myself. Because I do not want those close to me to explore my cranky vibes, I must take charge of my mind, body, and spirit.
Between January and June, I had a very consistent Self-Care Plan. I worked out four days a week. The results from being active were terrific. There were no aches and pains in my body. I stretched daily, was more flexible (hubby was indeed delighted) and I was wearing my clothes so nicely to the point I didn't need a waist trainer. My body had a ton of energy, and I felt strong.
Since January 1, I have been determined to take better care of myself. But like many people, I have fallen off the wagon. Because I am aware of how my body feels when I am consistently active, I am ready to resume taking better care of myself. Lord knows I do not want to have a stroke or a heart attack. Both of these chronic illnesses seem to be a consistent pattern that has run rampant in my family over the past couple of years. Especially with the recent death of my Aunt, I am still in shock of her untimely passing.
Feel Better/Look Better On A Budget.
If you're thinking what I am thinking, then you recognize that today is the best day to get back into the groove. I've decided not to wait until January 1st, to get back into my groove. If you are ready to take better care of yourself but also wish to keep the cost low, here are five budget-friendly self-care purchases from fiVe BELoW that will help jump start your affordable workout plan.
Jump Rope cost $4
DumbBells cost $4 each
Walking weight cost $3 each
Resistance Bands cost $5
Total Cost of investment in your self-care plan is $28. Who would have thought a self-care workout plan at home would require a complete cost under $30?
Let us join in together as we take better care of ourselves. We can do anything we set our minds to do. Let's plan to get moving 30 minutes a day, three to four days a week, using the affordable tools be purchased from fIve Below. Also, tag me in your self-care purchases from fiVe BELoW on my Facebook Fan Page KeiannaJohnson.com. I would love to shout you out and interview you for your latest affordable workout equipment.
Filed under: Self Care, Self Empowerment, Self Improvement, Uncategorized Tagged: Budget-Friendly, Five Below, Self Care, Self-Motivation, Transition
|Thurs, October 26, 2017 at 2:23 PM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
Unapologetic FunFall Greens Salad with Smoked Bacon, Apples and Spicy Pecans
It is always a great time when I visit my younger sister in North Carolina. Every time I visit her, I can always count on her to create themed experiences centered around a whole lot of fun. The theme she created for our fun weekend was Posh.....We had a chic, swanky good ole time the entire week, especially during our cooking class at Sur La Table.
Sur La Table is a chain retailer that sales upscale cooking and dining supplies. Sur La Table, depending on the location, also offer hands-on-cooking classes. The area we visited was in the Northcross Commons in Huntersville, North Carolina. The hands-on-cooking course was taught by the energetic Chef Kathy.
Chef Kathy was a fantastic instructor. She was funny, personable and very engaging while teaching. We were split up into two groups, four people to a team. My sister and I were teamed up with a married couple. We laughed the entire time while drinking wine. We made a great team. The assistant staffers were also terrific. They kept our cooking stations clean while we cooked.
Each meal was prepared using fresh ingredients. Below are the dishes Chef Kathy taught during our class.
Seared Steak with Bourbon-Shallot Butter
Butternut Squash, Swiss Chard, and Gruyere Gratin
Chocolate-Espresso Pot de Crème
The food was delicious! If I had to choose my favorite meal of the dishes listed above, it would be the Seared Steak with Bourbon-Shallot Butter. That butter made the steak taste so yummy. I will be testing out this recipe at home with my family during the holidays.
Attending the class allowed bonding to take place between my sister and I. Strangely, we both discovered that this was our very first time alone as an adult. We have two other siblings. It really was a great first time for us. I am grateful she decided to plan this fun outing for us.
I would definitely recommend attending cooking classes at Sur La Table. The class atmosphere as ritzy. It is the perfect outing for couples, girls night out and in my sister case a place (something she does with her employees) to bring your work staff for team building exercises. For more information on Sur La Table, visit the website at www.surlatable.com. Also to view more pictures of our experience at Sur La Table, follow me on Facebook & or Instagram.
Filed under: Living Unapologetic, Uncategorized Tagged: Cooking Class, Family Time, happiness, Huntersville North Carolina, Lifestyle, Living Life, Sur La Table, Upscale
|Thurs, October 5, 2017 at 9:44 AM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
In Time Of Bereavement.Her children
Recently on October 1, my family experienced a devastating loss of my beloved Aunt Bo who has suffered many years with her health. Knowing there was a 50/50 chance of survival, we also knew the quality of her life would most likely decline. So when God called her home, I believe everyone was at peace with the fact my Aunt Bo is no longer suffering in her body, However, beginning the process of coping with the reality that we will no longer physically see her again is horrifically overwhelming. Every action and reaction to the news of her loss is valid from:
Her extended family (nieces, nephews, etc.)
Are all experiencing what life will be like from this day forward without her having an active part.
1. To overcome completely in mind or feeling: overwhelmed by remorse.
2. To overpower or overcome, especially with superior forces; destroy; crush.
Viewing the above definition of what it means to be overwhelmed by pain, is all the more important to find mercy in the heart when people are reacting to a situation that has completely rocked their world.
I am blessed to have a family who has locked arms together in our time of bereavement.
But what about the many families we see who have experienced trauma due to a death of a loved one and are judged for their reaction to having a broken heart? There isn't enough mercy for people who are overcome with grief. We see it every day, a huge lack of compassion for the grieving. It seems like no one has a desire to help those who are in need anymore...
I honestly felt compelled to write this particular blog post because I too had to recognize that not everyone reacts to pain in the same manner. Not everyone is robust enough to hold their emotions together. Some people lash out in pain. There are those who cry in pain. Some people are afraid when they are in pain and began to operate from a place of fear. Some individuals have a history of substance abuse who relapse in pain. And then there are those who completely shut down physically and emotionally when they are in pain. When a person is in pain, nothing else matters except how the pain feels and the strong desire to wish the pain would go away. But in the case of death, there is no reversal of time. Death in a physical sense is permanent. The healing process can take years for a person to get used to not ever seeing their loved one again.
I encourage everyone who is reading today's post, be mindful of what you say and how you treat those who are grieving. Ask yourself, "How can I assist in making things easier?" It doesn't take much to make a person smile or be a little more understanding of someone else feelings. The circle of life is everything that lives must die. There will come a time that life as you know it will not be the same. How would you want someone to assist in making life more comfortable?
Filed under: Self Improvement, Uncategorized Tagged: Depression, Facts About Life, Family Time, Living Life, Transition
|Wed, September 20, 2017 at 11:01 PM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
Standards: Beliefs and Actions On One Accord.God-Having a real relationship with my creator.
Raise The Bar: lower (or raise) the standards that need to be met in order to qualify for something.
WOW! We are one day away from the first day of Fall which is my favorite season. It is something about the Fall that makes me want to clean up the clutter. Instead of only focusing on packing away Summer clothes, vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms and washing dishes, I am also conducting an inventory of myself, my thoughts and actions. Making sure my standard for living and actions are matching up with what I proclaim.
Hypocrisy: the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform; pretense.
Living life from day to day and going through the motions have made me comfortable in many areas of my life. Like most people, I have turned a blind eye to somethings that need my undivided attention. The truth of the matter is I do not want to be the kind of person who gives wonderful advice on how to live free, yet living in bondage. Or be the kind of mother who has high expectations for her children yet living a life filled with mediocrity and procrastination.
What is important to me?
Self-Mind, Body & Spirit
Family-Husband & Children; those living within my four walls.
Business- Services & Clientele
Network-Family, Friends, Industry
Why is raising the bar necessary for me?
I have been examining myself and my responsibilities. I've realized that I only have a short window to make things right. Realizing I will not be alive forever. Realizing I will not always have my children living at home with me. Realizing I will not be young forever. Realizing that nothing last forever. I have to DO what is required of me right now. I have a handful of responsibilities that can not be neglected. If I neglect any of these things, it will not only be devastating to me but also to everyone associated with me, especially my children.
The standard of living: Putting God FIRST! It is time for me to become more active in attending a faith-based fellowship with my husband & children. At least once a week I need to dedicate time for worship service. Raising the bar to cultivate my family moral compass.
The standard of living: Building Up My Household. Set aside one day a week to have fun with my hubby and kids. Create more family memories and just enjoy us for who we are. Raising the bar to be present with the ones I love.
The standard of living: Home. My home needs some cosmetic improvements inside and outside. Instead of spending money spontaneously, I need to put a few bucks to the side to splash some fresh paint on the walls, take these ugly borders off the walls in the kitchen (dreadful) and began to spice up my plant beds. Raising the bar to put love into my home.
The standard of living: Real Writers WRITE! I desire to become an awesome writer. To achieve my goal as a writer, I must write every single day. Meaningful manuscripts are birth from putting forth an effort. I am raising the bar to put forth 100% effort to support this platform.
The standard of living: I Am A Professional Hairstylist: My goal is to continue to learn, focus on my clients and practice healthy haircare. I plan to elevate my business uniquely. Raising the bar to walk fearfully, executing what it means to be Chi Chi Sophisticated.
The standard of living: Molding My Real Relationships. Indeed support honor, be honest and loyal to those who have been here for me. I am raising the bar to never turn a blind eye to what isn't good for me and extending myself to the real people who have respected the role I play in their lives.
The standard of living: Support My Community. Continue to support community causes that mean a lot to me. Daughters of Ester. RAINN, Natural Hair Industry, and Our Natural Kids. Raising the bar to stay focus on WHY these causes are important to me.
The standard of living: Read A Book. One of the oldest methods of learning is to read a book. I do not want to neglect my intellect. I also want to show my appreciation to my author friends. Raising the bar by expanding my mind through a book.
Truth moment: It took me a lot of time to think and analyze areas of my life where the bar needs to be lifted up. I have to be proactive in getting the work done. I am responsible for building my family up as well as accountable to keeping my mind in the correct place.
I encourage you to make a checklist of your morals and values. Be honest about if your lifestyle represents what your beliefs/standards are. Begin by asking yourself this question, who am I really? Write down everything. The good, the bad and the ugly. Being brutally honest with yourself will allow you the opportunity to self-examine from a pure place. It will reward you the chance to set some things in order in your life.
The one thing I have learned over time is that no matter if we choose to correct ourselves or not, People are going to eventually see who we really are. They will begin to see if our actions match up with what we are saying. If the two doesn't add up.....well what more can I say?
Filed under: Living Unapologetic, Self Improvement, Self-Discovery Tagged: Lifestyle, Living Life, Self Examination, Self-Motivation, Standards, Transition
|Wed, September 13, 2017 at 11:01 PM|Send Blog · Share on Facebook · Bookmark on Delicious
Stop It Now!First, it's important to recognize when you're doing it. When you hear yourself having a negative thought, just pause for a moment and ask yourself "is that right?" Start to notice when and why you are putting yourself down. You may find that there are situations that trigger these thoughts for you.
A little self-criticism is a good thing. It can be a reality check that encourages you to be a better person. But there is a big difference between saying " I need to exercise more" which can be the seed planted to motivate you to workout, rather than to say to yourself, "I AM FAT!"
Sometimes excessive self-talk can backfire because it can cause us to focus on our failures instead of how we can improve ourselves. And over time, negative self-talk causes higher stress levels which can also lead to depression.
Studies show that the average person criticizes themselves at least eight times a day, starting as early as 8 AM. And Criticisms about the way we look by far are the most common (i.e., "Another bad hair day," "These jeans make my butt look fat")
Would you ever say the negative things you say to yourself to someone you love? Your spouse or child, a friend or family member? Probably not. But saying them to yourself is worse.
Thoughts create a vibrational energy. When you indulge in negative self-talk, you exude an energy that tells people you don't like yourself. You may not say it out loud, but others sense it. And if you have kids in your life, giving off this vibration is teaching them that it's okay to think poorly of themselves. This bad energy also tells people how you want to be treated.
So how do you stop the negative self-talk and create a more positive view of yourself? It's not as hard as you may think.
Second, practice gratitude for yourself and your body by noticing what's right instead of what's wrong. Energy flows where attention goes so shift your thoughts towards your positive characteristics, and you will start to see more of them.
Third, let go of perfection. Stop comparing yourself to everyone around you. You are beautiful just the way you are. You are only human and, just like everyone else, you will make mistakes and have faults. But don't let them define you. Learn from them and move on.
Above all, remember that we are all human, and none of us are perfect. We accept imperfections in our loved ones; we also need to take them in ourselves with a little empathy.
What steps are you willing to take to prevent yourself from speaking of yourself negatively?